Happy VD...a few thoughts on love, relationships, and subliminal seduction

Here's the set up to the clip above which includes a brief reprise of one of the most
beautiful love songs ever written from Rodgers and Hammerstein's "Carousel".
(here's the whole song by John Raitt, Bonnie's dad: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TAoDDPKdBCQ&feature=related)
Julie Jordan finds a star left by her petty criminal ex-boyfriend, Billy Bigelow. He died as an accomplice to a robbery gone wrong and has been given one last chance to come down from beyond and set things right with his daughter who is ostracized and having a rough time in the small Maine fishing village where she lives. No one can see or hear him but he in turn can...his attempts to reconcile with the token gift fail and he is about to leave when Julie comes outside and finds the star. Puzzled at first she gradually comes to sense his presence and the words that used to be "if I loved you, how I'd love you" now become " how I loved you, how I loved you".

A good man is hard to find and a bad man is hard to rehabilitate as many a woman has learnt over the eons. That women try to play out unresolved father issues with their partner is a given which often leads to a power struggle, resentment, and recrimination...in short a retaliationship. Read the following article for an excellent take on the subject from today's Globe and Mail http://ago.mobile.globeandmail.com/generated/archive/RTGAM/html/20080214/wcowent14.html

We are compelled to procreate but haven't yet mastered the inter-personal politics. Patience is required though since as a species we've only had a few thousand years to work this out while the stalwart and selfless penguins for instance have had many millions of years. One can readily see why we are less evolved than many of our animal cousins.

This urge to procreate has been translated by the advertising industry into "sex sells" and this was pointed out in the 70's by the book Subliminal Seduction that told of the nefarious practice of hiding sexual imagery in otherwise mundane ads. The other day I showed a TV dinner in one of my posts...here it is:



This is a completely unretouched photo (I swear!!) and seems innocuous enough but let's take a closer look shall we:

Starting lower center the breast and the leg are gimmes but how about the craftily inverted triangular piece eh? The mixed veggies look harmless enough until you play connect the dots with the corn and carrots and get 69...go ahead, try it yourselves!! The butter dot as nipple may be stretching it a bit but the fruit dessert?? That's one of the filthiest photos of apples I've ever seen and I guarantee you it was no accident that the middle piece was f**king the other two ass shaped ones!!
I guess the bottom line is that there are all sorts of forces at play...psychological, evolutionary, environmental etc. and while we're not completely helpless relationship-wise it is a continuing struggle. The best Blob advice (this is after all an advice column for things I may know nothing about)
is to get out there and try to do your best, pathetic though that may be, and have a happy day.